So, we have our children Placed with us. That's the technical term 'Placed' - as in they have a Placement Order so they can be Placed with prospective adoptive parents. Yes, that's technically what we still are. When does that change? The answer to that varies depending on the age of the children, how settled … Continue reading What Happens Next?
Let me rewind a few weeks back to before we were approved and when I wrote this: Connections. In it I wrote "Our social worker has also provided some information about another sibling group and that too sounds promising" but I haven't mentioned anything since. The reason I hadn't was because those children hadn't yet … Continue reading Linked
Yesterday everything became real. We aren't just being assessed to be approved to be adoptive parents. We WILL become parents (subject to approval of course). Our social worker decided to do our profile before the Christmas break and sent it to us yesterday. It's a really nice write up including a few pictures (which I … Continue reading Not Just an Assessment
Stage 2 Adoption Assessment: Session 6. This one was difficult. Not insomuch as we had a problem with answering the questions, more to do with the feelings of guilt and self judgement when we answered them honestly. It was about what our expectations were from adoption (at least that's how it was presented to us). … Continue reading Expecting Expectations
Stage 2 Adoption Assessment: Session 5 What are our motivations to adopt? That was the key question to this session. It could have been a very short one with the answer of "we want to have a family" but it's not as simple as that, and although that is the main underlying reason for us wanting to … Continue reading Adoption Motivations
Stage 2 Adoption Assessment: Session 4 - a one on one interview with the social worker. This was the first session where I felt a bit anxious beforehand. I was fine until OH (who had his the day before mine) told me a couple of the questions that he was asked. My response being "I have … Continue reading The Interrogation?
Adoption Stage 2 Assessment Session 3 - this was far more innocuous than I thought it was going to be. Nothing controversial and nothing even remotely presumptuous about how we live our lives. We were asked about how we spend our evenings, what our favourite films, music and books were and that kind of thing. … Continue reading Lifestyle Assessment
Education, Work, Drugs, Smoking and Alcohol - a heady mix for our second session with the social worker! We talked through our education and how we found school in general, including whether we were bullied and how we handled it, and how that would translate into dealing with the bullying of a child of our … Continue reading Stage 2 Assessment – Session 2
Before our second session with our Stage 2 social worker, I thought I'd clear out what's currently in my head that I had intended on writing in a post at some point. The other day my partner (I'm going to abbreviate him to OH - other half - from now on) asked me how I … Continue reading Housekeeping
Stage 2 has officially started. We had a 2.5 hour session with the social worker talking about our relationship and support networks. We were asked questions about how we met, why we think our relationship works, how it might change when we have children, and things like that. Nothing massively intrusive, just a kind of … Continue reading Stage 2 Assessment – Session 1