Maybe I've picked a slightly more emotive title for this post than it actually deserves, I do only have toddlers at the moment who haven't quite grasped the full concept of what friendship actually is. They are learning though, and that is what this is about. The other day Youngest openly declared "You are my … Continue reading Weaponised Friendship
From the start of our adoption journey we always said we would like to adopt two children. At one point when we were looking at profiles of the children in care we saw many single children who we thought we would be good parents for. At that point we started to realise that if we … Continue reading Being Dad to Adopted Siblings
A little while ago I agreed to do an interview with the adoption agency who we went through for an article about LGBT Adoption & Fostering Week. At the time I thought it would be a written one and I would be able to take some time answering the questions. Unfortunately I then found out it … Continue reading LGBT Adoption & Fostering Week: The Interview
To commemorate the 100th post on this blog I am doing something different, I am handing responsibility for the post over to my first ever guest blogger. A foster carer giving some insight into their family life... It's a funny life my family lead. There are lots of ups and downs, Children arrive at short … Continue reading GUEST POST: Fostering Frustrations
Introductions are a very strange part of the adoption process. They are the final step before you become full time parents. You are taken so far out of your comfort zone that there really is no going back to it, yet at the same time you seem to be required to behave like well-rounded, calm, experienced … Continue reading The Introductions Experience
Our story began at an event held for LGBT Adoption & Fostering week in 2014. Yours can begin this year...
When you are in the adoption process, contact with birth family is presented as a vital component in providing your child with a sense of identity. The theory being that your children have a way of finding out information about where they came from. That's the theory... Of course that only works if your letters … Continue reading Reciprocal Contact
It's a question I always make a point of asking my Eldest son after he has spent a day at nursery. I have always asked it, I even tried some of the more specific questions about who he liked playing with today, or what the best thing he did today was, but the most detailed … Continue reading What Did You Do Today?
The main subject of this blog has been covered a number of times before, usually in blog posts entitled something along the lines of "things you shouldn't say to an adoptive parent". "They are so lucky to have you as parents." It is a phrase which we hear quite often, it is usually meant with … Continue reading They’re So Lucky!
As I've learned over the last couple of years, parenting is full of self-doubt and guilt. We do things the way we feel is right but that doesn't stop you questioning yourself and wondering if it really was the correct way of going about something. We feel guilty about things we do 'for their own … Continue reading Guilt Without Regret