Introductions are a very strange part of the adoption process. They are the final step before you become full time parents. You are taken so far out of your comfort zone that there really is no going back to it, yet at the same time you seem to be required to behave like well-rounded, calm, experienced … Continue reading The Introductions Experience
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It's a question I always make a point of asking my Eldest son after he has spent a day at nursery. I have always asked it, I even tried some of the more specific questions about who he liked playing with today, or what the best thing he did today was, but the most detailed … Continue reading What Did You Do Today?
As I've learned over the last couple of years, parenting is full of self-doubt and guilt. We do things the way we feel is right but that doesn't stop you questioning yourself and wondering if it really was the correct way of going about something. We feel guilty about things we do 'for their own … Continue reading Guilt Without Regret
Is it just my children that don't really have favourite things? They have 'transient' favourites certainly, where the thing they're playing with at the time is their 'favourite toy' if asked, but generally they have never had that one thing that they gravitate back to, or can't live without. Don't get me wrong, I don't … Continue reading Favourites
A slight break from my normal post style again. My Eldest son got this book for his birthday. It is aimed at children slightly older than he is, but he has such an appetite for reading and books that we went with it to see how he got on. This review has two sections, one from … Continue reading Review: Snow Tales by Michael Morpurgo
If you're a foster carer you'll be overly familiar with what an IRO is. If you're an adopter you may not know. Every child that is in care will usually have an IRO - Independent Reviewing Officer. They are meant to be there, amongst other things, to ensure that the best interests of the child … Continue reading Turning The Tables – IRO
For many of us Christmas is a time of joy, a time for family, a time for giving and a time of unity. For others of us it is a time of stress, a time of emotional dysregulation and a time of disruption. As adopters we become parents of children who often come from an … Continue reading Christmas – Take 2
This year will be our second Christmas with our boys but it'll be our eldest son's 4th and our youngest's 3rd in their lifetimes. I don't think we really appreciated how big a deal a stable Christmas with the extended family and lots of presents was until last year. It was something both my partner … Continue reading The Christmas Quandary
I am not brilliant at expressing my emotions in person, I am much better at doing so in writing. This blog post has very little to do with adoption, and is admittedly a little self-indulgent. I write it for me, you may read it if you want. My good friend and companion of nearly 10 … Continue reading Goodbye Dear Friend