During Stage 1 of the adoption process we were asked to create what was called an "Eco-map" to represent the family, friends and co-workers who we thought made up the network of people who would support us during the approval process and after we adopted our child/children. When we were thinking about who to put … Continue reading Support Networks
We met our Stage 2 social workers yesterday. Our assessment is starting next week. The provisional date for our approval panel is in February. Well, that was quick. Lots of dates in diaries, a few more training courses booked up, and we're off. Twoish months ahead of what we had originally scheduled. I think because … Continue reading Schedule Change
On Sunday I was unapproachable, irritable, short tempered, and I had a headache. Why? I was anxious about the preparation group that we were going to be attending on Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday this week. To most people this probably wouldn't have been a problem, certainly nothing to get anxious about; it was just a … Continue reading The Preparation Group
This week has seen some good and bad from the adoption agency. I think there may be some cracks in their seemingly well organised processes. We received an email from the 'Training Team' about the preparation group we are booked on next week, which detailed where it is and what time to get there, along … Continue reading Cracks?
Since being told we had a place on the October Preparation Group it has been total radio silence from the adoption agency. We know the dates that is it happening, but we don't know where it is, what time it starts, if we need to do anything in preparation or if we need to take … Continue reading No Contact! Contact!
On the time scales we have set ourselves, with Stage 2 starting in January (that's official now I think), and all being well, we could be approved to adopt by May 2015. That means at any point after that we could become parents depending on whether there is a child or children that we suit … Continue reading Reality Hitting
We received word yesterday that we have passed Stage 1 of the approval process. This means that our adoption agency processed the replacement reference in under 2 weeks, which, from what I've seen from other people's delays and frustrations, is astonishingly fast.Let me summarise our process so far.Early March - Attended LGBT Adoption Week event … Continue reading Progression!
We now know that we won't be progressing to Stage 2 of the adoption process on schedule. We appear to have sabotaged our own application by providing references which didn't fit the criteria they wanted. We had to give 3 references, only one of which could be a family member. We interpreted family member to … Continue reading Sabotage!
Just as I was starting to think about looking into some form of cryogenic suspension so that I could be woken up when the adoption agency had done something with our Stage 1 workbook my partner got a phone call from one of the social workers. (Let's just say "Patient" wasn't one of the 5 … Continue reading Glacial Feedback
Just a quick update on my previous post. The adoption agency have confirmed that they had already been told that we have received our DBS Certificates, and they have said that because they contain "No Information" (i.e. they prove we don't have a criminal record of any kind) they do not "need sight of them". … Continue reading DBS Certificate