Introductions are a very strange part of the adoption process. They are the final step before you become full time parents. You are taken so far out of your comfort zone that there really is no going back to it, yet at the same time you seem to be required to behave like well-rounded, calm, experienced … Continue reading The Introductions Experience
In the current adoption climate adopters being linked with a child and then having that link severed is becoming all the more common. I'm going to revisit the worst part of our adoption journey from a less emotional point of view, in the hope that our experiences will help others that may be going through the same: … Continue reading When Things Go Wrong
One of my previously private posts that I now feel able to share with the world
So, just before being able to write a post about Matching Panel I was “advised” to stop writing my blog publicly. This post is the first one I’ve written since then and is intended to be privately published. Despite having been “advised” for a good 10 minutes about why I shouldn’t write it I am still unclear on the precise reasoning behind it.
Anyway, we had Panel. We were asked a few questions about how we will cope, including about recent losses and how that will affect OH. We were asked about how we would deal with questions about birth Mum and Mummy things (the asker clarified she wasn’t asking because we are a male couple, although in my opinion the way she asked made this clear anyway). I got asked about this blog (this was a little unexpected, but I knew my SW knows about it, so it no…
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So, we have our children Placed with us. That's the technical term 'Placed' - as in they have a Placement Order so they can be Placed with prospective adoptive parents. Yes, that's technically what we still are. When does that change? The answer to that varies depending on the age of the children, how settled … Continue reading What Happens Next?
A few more observations: 9. Driving on a dual carriageway (highway for those of you across the pond) whilst doing a full family rendition of Twinkle Twinkle Little Star (with actions for the non-drivers) is a common occurrence. 10. Replace Twinkle Twinkle with any other nursery rhyme/song and repeat point 9. 11. Associating video with … Continue reading And so it continues…
Introductions have been an amazing experience. Wonderful, exciting, nerve wracking, and tiring. One thing is clear though, if you have a good foster family helping you things go a lot better than they otherwise would. Introductions are customised to the age of the child/children that you're being introduced to. Younger ones tend to have a … Continue reading Introductions
Introductions are over and we are now in full Parental Responsibility mode. Before I say anything about the introductions in general I have a list of observations. 1. Get used to drinking formerly hot drinks cold, or only half of them, or not at all. Certainly get used to searching for randomly placed cups with … Continue reading And so it begins…
One year ago today we officially got accepted onto the adoption agency's books, and entered The Process. One year later we met our children for the first time. From the outset it was clear that the foster carer had been preparing them for meeting us and the first words spoken, fairly unprompted, by one of … Continue reading Introducing Introductions
So, just before being able to write a post about Matching Panel I was "advised" to stop writing my blog publicly. This post is the first one I've written since then and is intended to be privately published. Despite having been "advised" for a good 10 minutes about why I shouldn't write it I am … Continue reading Matching Panel
We have met the foster carer, met the medical advisor, met the children's new social worker and have had written confirmation of our matching panel date through the post. All systems are go for leaping that final hurdle and on to the final straight. The foster carer is clearly a very lovely person who is … Continue reading The Final Straight Approaches